I've been guilty of this! At first, I loved 'taking care of' him, and 'organizing' things. But Judas Priest, between me initially choosing it and him taking it too far, I turned into his mom/secretary/etc. That did NOT make for a sexy vibe. You're right - it should be a 'relay'...a give and take. Filing under Things Not To Do If There Is A Next Time! Thanks for writing.

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Once I heard that lil dodge called 'weaponized incompetence', that's what I call it now. Love that term...hate that people do that to their supposed loved ones, but they do. Would've been almost life-changing for me to come home to a home cooked dinner when I was married. His kids were all we had and they were grown and living on their own, but still. We both worked and he had whole weekdays off every week. He really messed up by not taking that chance to connect and contribute. Great article. Thanks!

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Good for you! I enjoy 'playing' in the kitchen! Sometimes I'll make big batches of work-week lunches, sometimes baked goods for friends...I'm looking forward now, to trying more bread-baking during these last months of the year. I hope you continue to have fun in the kitchen as well!

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I'm cracking up! I still have my iron AND ironing board altho haven't used them in the 2 years since I divorced and moved out on my own! Every now and then, I think of tossing them, but haven't yet - maybe this will push me to do it. Great article! :)

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I'm currently re-examining my r'ship with alcohol...haven't had a drink since early Sept. Not saying I'll NEVER have another one, but I, too, was reaching for wine to celebrate, to 'take the edge off' the day - almost every day - and certainly looked forward to booze when dining out, whether brunch, lunch or dinner. That added up to more drinking (numbing/self-medicating) than I realized, thus the break and self-examination. Thanks for writing!

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